"There is no this causing a that" therefore it is not your fault.

Guilt is coming from an opinion that somehow the situation could
have been different, which it could not have... "Everything is arising of its own".

Surrender "feeling guilty is wrong" it is also arising of its own.
"Surrender everything as it arises".
 
Judging that the feeling is somehow improper takes us out of the "crest of the wave". All is perfection(God) even events that appear tragic.

This is how I use the teachings when such an event arises.

Love,
Clint

When I start to distinguish the differences between caring and loving with people they at first think they are the same thing. The programming that we received was that our parents were punishing us because they loved us. "This will hurt me more than it will you" never really jived with me as a child. We were taught that caring was showing love.

I can begin by giving  a definition of the two in such a way as to show the differences.

Caring is based in the belief that the world is dangerous and that there is something to protect ourselves from. It is always seeing dangers and boogey men around the next corner. It is constantly calculating the next "bad" thing that will happen and attempting to stop it. Caring projects an unconscious fear onto whatever is cared about. Caring is selfish and wants to keep what it has. All judgment in caring is from that the point of view that the thing cared about is weak and cannot care for itself. YOU MUST MAKE THE THING CARED ABOUT A VICTIM BEFORE YOU CAN CARE ABOUT IT! Caring always uses contraction and less movement (death) as a solution for the thing cared for. Caring always feels bad and extends bad feelings to others even though it gives the appearance of being a "kind" or "good" person. It is totally inauthentic. Caring is possessive, arrogant, fearful, judgmental, controlling, forcing and restricting.

Love on the other hand is based in the belief that the world is safe and that there is nothing to protect ourselves from. It always sees the world as benign and perfect. It is constantly seeing the "good" side in everything. It allows for maximum movement and ability in the thing loved. Loving never is possessive. Loving allows anything to happen to itself or others. Loving is generous because loves' world is generous to it. Love totally realizes that it does not know what is best for anyone and so assumes that what is happening is best for everyone involved. Love assumes strength in everything that it encounters and gives strength and encouragement to the strength and possibility in the thing encountered. Love always feels good and extends that feeling to everything. Love is expansive. Love does not pretend to be kind to people, it is a natural occurrence for those around it that the loving person is kind. Loving does not worry about "what people will think" it allows for people to have all points of view. Love can "be with" anything. Love is powerful because it is the source of all power.

There is a part of us that knows everything. There is also a part of us that wants to know everything. The part that wants to know everything is the part that the unenlightened identify themselves with.

The second we think we "know that" we are now limited by the conceptualization of the real "that". Once we are operating on the level of conceptualizations we are not interacting with reality any more. We are interacting with an image that we have of "that" in our minds. The image is a frozen image (graven image) and does not morph over time like the real thing. The image may have been a pretty accurate representation of the thing when we made it but just like a photograph the objects move after the photograph is taken.

So we are constantly working with "old" or "inaccurate" data about what the world is or how it works. A miracle to us would be something that works outside of how we know the world works. Just no way to explain it in terms of what we already know.

When we change (using 4 steps) the static images or rules about how things work we may feel happier in the minute but we do not realize that we have altered how the world "out there" will occur to us. We do not have proof yet of this new world and as we move along things now operate in a new way. This new way has new rules that are not limited by the old rules and they occur as miraculous to us.